Want to know how to pick up women? If you do, the very first thing to understand is that you are actually taking the time to develop a skill that 99% of the male population does not have a clue about…so good for you. The first thing to be aware of is that knowing how to approach women and how to attract women isn’t some mystical enchanting gift set you’re either born with or not born with.
Instead, it’s a skill which can be learned just like any other skill: through consistent practice and measuring of what’s working and what’s not working. But if you’re too lazy to go through all that painstaking trial and error, listed below are three strategies which will help you to learn how to pick up women…
First: Go Where the Fish Are
This might sound like simple advice when it comes to learning how to pick up women, but most men make the mistake of trying to approach women in places where the competition is really hot. For example: bars, night clubs…all those places where women go and get hit on by 55 guys per minute while they’re just trying to meet up with her friends.
Sure, these places might be good to visit if you are looking to get a lot of practice, but you’re not terribly interested in getting a lot of quality results. But if you begin approaching women at unsuspecting places: parks, coffee houses, bookstores, libraries etc…you’ll find that there’s much less competition and therefore women would not have their “pick up radar” on high security mode.
Second: Build Trust First
One of the biggest secrets of how to pick up women is being able to create trust quickly. But how do you make this happen when it’s obvious that you are approaching her for one reason and one reason only? Easy, don’t approach her until you’ve built trust. For example, if she’s relaxing in a book store reading a book, sit beside a chair near her. After a few minutes, tell her that you’re going to the restroom and ask her to watch your seat.
This will communicate a subtle message that you trust her, and extending trust to people generally inspires them to reciprocate trust. Then obviously, you say thanks when you return, and she’ll probably be much more approachable.
TIP: for best results, make a joke out of this and say: “I’m going to run to the restroom, if anyone touches my lap top, I need you to tackle them.” After this, it ought to be easier to engage her in a conversation…and then you go on to the final step…
Third: Use the “Gotta Go Close”
After you have some a conversation going, pretend that you just got a text message from a friend of yours and you “have to go.” This type of “interruption” will create a chance for you to say: “I need to go, but I would like to have this conversation, what are you doing on…”
And of course, you ask for the date at this time, and since the conversation was interrupted, you will still be leaving her with the sense that you’re not needy, that you have a life and that you and her still have something to talk about.
Practice the above strategy, and bear in mind that knowing how to pick up women is really a skill which can be learned through practice. After just a few times, you’ll be comfortable and other men will probably be asking for advice on how to pick up women.
